Friday, September 20, 2013

A Word on Gay Rights


Trying to make sense of things, of political discourse, of ideological warfare, of America in 2013, I come across the issue of Gay Rights. Yes, I have a favored view of this issue because I am gay. Old and crotchety, but gay nonetheless. And the old and crotchety comes from age, not gay! Maybe you already knew that. Perhaps not. Thought I’d mention it to be safe.

I have collected a few quotes you might find interesting.  First:

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”   ~ Anonymous

Whether that is a man or a woman and whether you are a man or a woman seems nonessential at this point. We are all flawed, hard as we try not to be or not to see the flaws. We love others. We slowly learn to love ourselves. Then we are able to let someone love us. Imperfect souls coming together. I think in that order. Any other order seems to put a hitch in it.

Second quote:

“The couples that are meant to be are the ones who go through everything that’s designed to tear them apart and come out even stronger.” ~Author Unknown

Obviously many couples do not survive challenges. Divorce affects nearly half of all marriages. A huge statistic. And then there are the couples who don’t marry but do survive, and many more that don’t. Those statistics are impossible to tally.

Challenges strengthen those motivated to survive the onslaughts of happenstance: ill health, poverty, unemployment, alcoholism, drug addiction, adultery, criminal behaviors. Challenges much larger than a bounced check, or a cancelled TV program, or a lost election. Challenges that give depth and patina to a life.

The healthy couples can talk about the problems and find solutions, or adapt to the new realities, welcome or not. They find reason for life and happiness; and make it happen. They belong together. They stick it out – together – and are stronger for the experience.

Third quote:

“Gay marriage isn't about special rights – it’s equal rights. ‘Special rights’ are for political churches that don’t pay taxes.”   ~John Fugelsang

And anyone else who benefits from the status quo and doesn't much like change or challenge. Usually they speak values and principles but end up exchanging money, sort of like the money changers in the Temple cast out by Jesus. Perhaps they should read their Bibles with a bit more discernment?

Quote four comes from The Reprimand Project on Facebook.com:

            “So you oppose gay rights because of the Bible?
            Unless you also try to outlaw:
            -Shrimp Cocktails (Leviticus 11:9)
            -Cursing (Leviticus 24:16)
            -Women’s jeans (Deuteronomy 22:5)
            -Arrogance (Proverbs 16:5)
            -Lying (Proverbs 12:22)
            -Bacon (Leviticus 11:7)
            -Adultery (Deuteronomy 22:23)
            -Working on Sunday (Numbers 15:32)
            Please shut the hell up!”

Well now; that’s a bit intemperate for me, but the point remains valid. The Bible commands mankind to do many things. Nearly every one of those things we do today without a second thought.

One we should never forget: “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” Then again, perhaps we don’t know how to love ourselves very well?

September 20, 2013




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